Posts Tagged ‘teenagers’

Then, Now, and Later

May 24, 2009

DSC_6309Think back to when you were in early elementary school.   What got you excited?  Who were the most important people in your life?   What were your favorite foods/games/shows/things?  How did you feel about your parents; the opposite sex; adults?

Now, think about how you feel about all of those same things now.  Are your feelings the same; or have they changed?

You’ve experienced a lot since early elementary school.  You’ve learned that adults aren’t as perfect as they seemed when you were younger.  You’ve found new things to replace your favorites.  And, the opposite sex can cause some really exciting things to happen to your thoughts.  You’ve grown up some.  It’s the way you were made to be.  You’ve met a lot more people; Done a lot of new things; Been let down and brought right back up again.  You’ve done it all!

Not so fast.  What about later?  What about all the new people you’re going to meet when you finish school or go to college?  Will they affect the way you think and feel?  What about the first time you live on your own?  Will you learn new things; Have new fears; Change how you see things?  Of course you will, it’s all a part of growing up.

The person you were as a child is very different than the person you are as a teenager.  The same holds true for adulthood.  It all depends on your experiences, the people you meet, the things you try, and the things you learn (and not just in school.)  Life experiences don’t come to a screeching halt when you become a teenager.  You just see things differently.

The little kid who always wants to please may become the angry teen who thinks they know everything.  The smart little boy may become the too cool for school high school stud.  The little girl who has lots of elementary school friends, may become the moody loner in high school.  The silly little girl may become the high school prom queen.  Who you become depends on so many things you experiences.  And as a teenagers, you’ve only experienced a very small part of what life is really about.

The high school football star may find them self as a nobody as an adult.  The prom queen may become a divorced mother who feels alone in the world.  The loner may become the most popular person at their job.  The high school stud may finally realize that partying too much eventually leads to a beer gut and a lonely life.

As a teenager, you really don’t know who you’re going to want to be as an adult.  Unfortunately, you can do things as a teenager that will alter just that.  A teenager who has a baby does not become the adult they would have if they hadn’t gotten pregnant.  The kid who decides that driving a car is like a game, won’t become the adult they might have if the game they played in a car with their friends, ends up killing someone.  The teen who drops out of school will not become the adult they might have become if they stayed in school.  Think about this.  You are a teenager for seven years of your life.  You’re an adult for a lot longer than that.

My parents are so mean!

April 28, 2009

Parents can be so mean sometimes.  They do things like take away your video games when your grades drop;  They cut you off from your friends if you start getting into trouble;  They won’t even let you use your cell phone if you get caught texting too much.  Then they get mad if you argue with them about it!  How can they do this to you?

Well, lets look at it from a different prospective.  It’s pretty simple, consider this table:

Action ==> Reaction

Your grades drop ==> You lose your video games

You get into trouble ==> You’re cut off from your friends

You text too much ==> You lose your cell phone.

Which came first, the action or the reaction?  If your grades hadn’t dropped would you still be playing your video games?  If you hadn’t gotten into trouble would you be able to hang with your friends?  If you hadn’t texted too much would you still have that cell phone in your bag?  The problem isn’t that your parents are being mean, it’s that you haven’t kept up with your end of things.  Hey, who bought you the video games in the first place?   Your parents are just trying to teach you how to take care of yourself.  You see, as an adult, if you don’t take care of yourself (in other words, do the things you should) then you lose.  The difference is, the things you lose as an adult might be:  your home, your family, your life.  A few weeks without video games doesn’t even come close to as bad as losing the things you could lose as an adult.