Archive for December, 2010

Teen Suicide

December 10, 2010


Would you give up the chance to…?

Make love, to the love of your life, for the first time (I seriously doubt that you’ve met this person yet.)

Be moved by a great song not yet written

Fall in love with the RIGHT person, at the RIGHT time

Have the thrill of driving your first car

Succeed and feel pride like you’ve never felt before

Deposit your first paycheck, or your biggest paycheck

Feel strong and powerful

Be moved to tears of joy at the sight of your newborn child

Taste a new flavor of ice cream that literally competes with an orgasm

Feel the tingle when you first touch someone’s hand that you’ve fallen in love with (give yourself the chance to meet that person)

Have someone thank you for simply being there for them

Walk down the aisle on your wedding day

Watch the love of your life walk down the aisle to meet you on your wedding day

See someone who use to treat you like shit, or simply ignored you, suddenly want to be your friend because you’re stronger, richer, smarter, or better off than they are

Meet the person who will change your life

Live on your own for the first time

Swim with dolphins, rescue a stranger, snorkel over a barrier reef, or be introduced to a new hobby that will bring you so much pleasure

The most important things in your life don’t happen in your youth.  The best times of your life aren’t your teenage years.   That’s the greatest tragedy when a young person commits suicide.  They aren’t escaping pain (that’s already happened), they’re giving up their future, and that future is full of surprises.  Yes, adults go through tough times, but they have enough experience to realize that things NEVER stay the same. 

The bully seems so strong in his youth, but the bullied always end up the strongest because they’ve lived through challenge.  The bully loses his strength with age, the bullied gain their strength with their wisdom.  Don’t give up the chance to realize this.

Live for all the perfect days in your future.  There may be many, there may be few, but every one of them is worth living for. 

Suicide is never painless.

Finally, a new post

December 8, 2010

I haven’t written anything in a while.  Honestly, I’ve had a tough time lately.  I question my skills, my self worth, etc.  For my kids who read this, know that this happens to the adults in your life just like it does some of you at times.  It’s important for you to understand that adults have stages they have to get through (growing doesn’t stop just because you’re an  adult, neither does learning.)  That being said, give your parents a break just like they do for you (probably a lot more than you realize.)  This goes for the teachers you deal with everyday too.

Christmas can be tough on all of us.  It’s not just about presents, it’s about memories too.  So many are recorded in pictures and video, and so many of those memories won’t ever be repeated.  I miss my mom, the friends that always use to get together for the holidays, even the simple pleasure of having “Santa” surprise my kids like “he” did when they were younger.  Fortunately, we are able to create new memories, but as you get older, the holidays change and there will always be things you miss.  Be open to that and understand if your parents sometimes seem to be more “snappy” than usual or morose (sad.)

Your teachers are going through there own stress during the holidays.  They are looking forward to the break as much as you are, and probably dreading the weeks before it more than you can imagine.  kids (sorry, I still think of you as kids even though most of you are too old to be called that) you get a little nutty just before the Christmas break.  Teacher’s for the most part realize that school is low on your priority at this time, but they still have to do their jobs and they want to succeed at it even during the pre-holiday days.  So, try to give them a break, let them know you appreciate them.  It doesn’t have to be a gift (not that we don’t love them) but a hand written note can mean as much as any gift.  

I know, this is a pretty preachy post, especially since I haven’t posted in a while, but like I said, my outlook needs a little preachyness right now so it’s spilling over here.  I’m sorry if I’ve disappointed any of you. 

 I do want you to know that having the chance to teach many of you has added so much to my life and I selfishly hope that some of you can say the same about me.  I miss you guys, and hope that you all have a great Holiday/Christmas.